““I am always amazed when I hear white folks speak about their fear of black people, of being the victims of black violence. They may never have spoken to a black person, and certainly never been hurt by a black person, but they are convinced that their response to blackness must first and foremost be fear and dread. They too live in denial. They claim to fear that black people will hurt them even though there is no evidence which suggests that black people routinely hurt white people in this or any other culture. Despite the fact that many reported crimes are committed by black offenders, this does not happen so frequently as to suggest that all white people must fear any black person. Now, black people are routinely assaulted and harassed by white people in white supremacist culture. This violence is condoned by the state. It is necessary for the maintenance of racial difference. Indeed, if black people have not learned our place as second-class citizens through educational institutions, we learn it by the daily assaults perpetuated by white offenders on our bodies and beings that we feel but rarely publically protest or name. Though we do not live in the same fierce conditions of racial apartheid that only recently ceased being our collective social reality, most black folks believe that if they do not conform to white-determined standards of acceptable behavior they will not survive. We live in a society where we hear about white folks killing black people to express their rage. We can identify specific incidents throughout our history in this country whether it be Emmett Till, Bensonhurst, Howard Beach, etc. We can identify rare incidents where individual black folks have randomly responded to their fear of white assault by killing. White rage is acceptable, can be both expressed and condoned, but black rage has no place and everyone knows it.””
Y’all need to understand how DANGEROUS it is for us to allow our kids out the house even looking a LITTLE ashy/raggedy/disheveled/unkempt. It means that The People will come and take your kids from you. It means that some teacher or social worker at the school will assume that your home is a dangerous place and call DCFS on you.
Even if your kid has done nothing but played hard on the playground before class. Even if you have to leave CRAZY early for work (or not get in from your night job until the kids are gone) and don’t have time to do a Body/Wardrobe check before they leave for school.
Our kids can’t have shoes that are too small or pants that too short or skirts with a loose hem. That could mean you will lose your kids if some person of the System decides that what they thought about your Black Mothering (oh, that is ALWAYS called into question) is true.
This is why we scrub our children almost raw in the tub, comb and brush and hot comb our girls’ hair into reluctant submission and shop for clothes sometimes in lieu of paying the electric bill. This is why we slather our babies down with Vaseline because shiny= healthy and clean (slavery imprinted that on us).
Mothering While Black is living in constant fear and under constant judgment.
But…BUT: We’ve been trusted with White babies since we got here.
I remember being in the store once with kid #1 & he had chalk dust all over him (as they do when they are tiny), and some woman making a really nasty comment about “those people” that ended with her talking about someone should do something. Mind you, this was sidewalk chalk dust. What child with blue & pink stains on his otherwise clean shirt is endangered? Then again, when he was in 4th grade some woman tried to tell me I was too mean to him because I told him that if he forgot his gym shoes again he’d have to take the lost points. The minutiae of life is an excuse to police our parenting & people who think we’re overreacting should go look up some stats on which kids are taken into custody & how long they stay there vs which families are offered services & how long those services are accessible.
A few years ago I grasped why my mother insisted that I was always spotless, well groomed, and unnaturally fresh when I saw the notes in my file from my brush with social services, which noted that I was “clean and well adjusted.” Those notes were one of the reasons I was able to stay in my home with my mother during an incredibly stressful time. I shudder to think what would’ve happened if, before one of those visits I had went to play with my friends, fell off my bike as I was prone to do, burned myself attempting to curl my hair, been sullen, had unpermed hair, the list foes on and on and on.
It is unfair, and incredibly restricting to be denied the stages of childhood and adolescence where we are unconcerned with anything but out own joy in finding our limbs, in conquering the jungle gyms, skate parks and empty spaces of our youth. This is an example of the incredible and impossible standards we are held up against, another burden for our mothers to constantly curtail us, to ensure that we are protected against a world that will not allow us our humanity.
But my relationship with that reclamation does not come without a price.
Black women do not have the privilege of reclaiming the word slut without validating the historically entrenched idealology and recurring messages about what and who the Black Woman is.
Black women have worked tirelessly since the 19th century colored women’s clubs to rid society of the sexist/racist vernacular of slut,jezebel,hottentot,mammy,mule,sapphire so that may be able to build our sense of selves and redefine what women who look like us represent.
When white women reclaim the world slut, it is considered a revolutionary act. When women of color reclaims the word, the world shoots us a look as if we’ve finally admitted to the truth.
So I beg white feminists to understand that although we support your right to reclaim ‘Slut’ and wear whatever you choose,wherever you choose,and whenever you choose, we as women of color do not have the privilege and if we DO choose to reclaim the word it is not to be romanticized by white feminists or SlutWalk.
Our relationship with the word ‘Slut’ is a bumpy road, a road that is filled with hate,validation by a racist misogynistic society,and a struggle to maintain bodily integrity in a world that has done everything against us. That is a road that we as Black Women must choose to take, and ours alone, and if we choose not to, PLEASE respect that choice, and do not demand that reclamation onto us.
Well, on the one hand, I now officially can never stand to see Matthew Fox again.
On the other hand, I feel better about Dominic Monaghan as a person. Thanks for sounding the warning, Mr. Monaghan.
i’ve seen several people reference monaghan as being questionable as a person—i know net to nothing about hwat is going on here, can somebody fill me in?
What do you wanna know? I haven’t heard much about Monaghan or Fox personally before, so this is all news to me. But what Dominic said on twitter was that Fox beats women, that it’s not isolated incidents, that he does it often, and that this is not something he (Dominic) is claiming, it’s something he knows.
Personally I’m pretty impressed, because I think the pressure not to badmouth the people you work with in Hollywood (“don’t close any doors”) must be enormous.
well, i read your posts, and I was pretty darn impressed too! but then i read the “makes me feel better about him as a person” thing, and I was like, eer? did he do something wrong? but maybe I just read that wrong!
but either way, yes, i am very impressed—and i’m just waiting for all the *F*eminists to notice the white girls getting mad about his replies just like they noticed and had lots and lots of thoughts on all the black girls getting mad about rihanna “complaining” about chris brown…
Oh yeah, I’ll wait with you on that one. We could be here for a while.
—but now I just remembered that Dominic WAS IN Rihanna’s video! “Love the Way You Lie”—Dominic played the batterer in that video. So he’s worked with Rihanna. And now I just had to go watch it again now that I know the guy playing the batterer hates actual batterers.
oh, maybe that’s what folks are talking about! i know that people were pretty pissed all the way around about everything concerning that video. maybe what people are talking about is “he must support eminem if he was in that video, so that makes him a bit of a jerk” or something…
so apparently tumblr did something awesome and connected all our tumblr accounts to facebook. it’s not directly logged in to our facebook accounts but just in case deselect that shit under ‘blog settings’.
fcu kthat noise
ok, this explains a lot. Sometimes on my phone I try to operate certain menus/buttons here, & I something fucks up & I get kicked over to a facebook login page. Which is always spooky bc I DON’T HAVE A FACEBOOK ACCOUNT
JFC THE BOX WAS CHECKED OH MY GOD i almost had a heart attack
According to a diplomatic cable published by WikiLeaks, U.S. troops willfully massacred an Iraqi family in the town of Ishaqi in 2006, handcuffing and then shooting 11 people in the head including a woman in her 70′s and five children ages five and under.
McClatchy is reporting that the soldiers then called in an air strike on the house to cover up evidence of the killings.
This account differs sharply from an official version of the 2006 incident, which indicated that coalition forces captured an al Qaeda in Iraq operative in the house, which was destroyed in a firefight. The WikiLeaks cable, however, corroborates accounts by Ishaqi townspeople and includes questions about the incident by Philip Alston, the U.N.’s special rapporteur on extrajudicial, summary or arbitrary executions.
The cable is dated twelve days after the incident, which took place March 15, 2006. In it, Alston says that autopsies performed in Tikrit on bodies pulled from the wreckage of the farmhouse indicated that all of the dead had been handcuffed and shot in the head.
If true, this action, although not as egregious as the My Lai massacre of March 16, 1968, wherein 347-504 unarmed civilians were shot to death by U.S. forces during the Vietnam conflict, still speaks volumes about war and the atrocities committed for war’s sake.
just because *I*, one single solitary person of color who identifies as chicana and mestiza (thus indicating my mixedness) finds it necessary to understand and negotiate a certain type of whiteness—THAT DOES NOT MEAN ALL PEOPLE OF COLOR DO.
1. NO, WHITE FOLKS. YOU DO NOT GET TO USE MY WORDS AGAINST OTHER PEOPLE OF COLOR FOR ANY REASON EVER. that extends to ALL VARIATIONS OF: “but we should pay more attention to class, cuz see! it extends across all races!” and “hm. i don’t know why YOU have to be so unruly when OTHER people of color can work with us just fine!”
2. I’m not willing talk to ALL white people. My very specific organizing strategy involves poor white folks. poor white folks who reach out to me in good faith i reserve the right to talk to and open up further communication with. all others? naw. As much as I don’t particularly appreciate “calling people out” as an organizing strategy? any post I’ve made about “cracker” and “poor white folks” needs to be recognize as a call out of middle/upper class gentility (ie. classism) and white supremacy.
yeah, if anyone misconstrued the previous post about cracker as in any way criticizing people of color’s use of that word, you’re all kinds of wrong
it’s criticizing white people’s use of ‘cracker’ against poorer white people, and ONLY that case
Not using fucking flash grenades and paramilitary tactics in our neighborhoods. Not fucking RAIDING people’s neighborhoods because they’re here w/o bullshit paperwork. Not RAIDING people’s neighborhoods because the only jobs left are selling drugs to white suburbanites. Stop DUMPING TOXINS in our gulf, air, food, all over the reservations you stuck people on. Let Indians prosecute non-Indians for rape committed on their land against their communities.
Other great preventative treatments: Not doing strip searches. Not doing cavity searches. Not stopping and frisking.
You could pay to train more mental health professionals to provide assembly-line therapy… or you could fucking get rid of people’s debt so we can LIVE and heal ourselves.
We need rest. We need sleep. We need food. We need our families.
We need time between the violence inflicted on us. Right now there’s none. It’s constant. A cop is always ready to shoot. People are always hungry. Constant exposure to violence and nothing but work work work workworkwork just to die sooner after living with a broken mind, body, spirit…
And y’all still wonder why we’re angry?
i have ptsd because of raids. literally. so fuck yes to everything here in this and more.
I’ve been reading all of the talk around 50 Shades of Grey, & noting how often developing a BDSM relationshionship in romantica/erotica is written as though sex comes before trust & then running into convos on & offline that center around the idea that kink is something white women do. That being sex positive is a movement that requires you to discuss your sex life with all & sundry & be white to boot or you’re a problem & not a person. Somehow the fact that WOC not only have kinky sex, but enjoy it is a hard concept for some folks to grasp. And things get more complicated when you factor in our high rates of sexual assault, violence, & cultural norms that mean our sexuality is often something we share with partners but not with the public for our own safety. WOC can figure as props in the sexual fantasies of others, but people seem to think that we don’t deserve any agency over ourselves for our own pleasure. And that makes conversations about sex in general & kink in specific really hard to have, especially when it comes to kink, how WOC may choose to engage in it & whether or not we utilize the same spaces for connections as white people. Our voices are erased from so many media outlets (see the casual moments of racism in 50 Shades of Grey and how little has been said about that), and what we speak of when we do speak to each other is often not for public consumption. But not talking to or for outsiders isn’t the same as not talking at all.
So, let’s talk about what it means to stand at the corner of Madonna/Whore as Mammy/Jezebel & how that impacts our expressions of our sexuality. Let’s talk about why sites like Fetlife being underpopulated with WOC doesn’t mean WOC aren’t interested in kink. And let’s talk about what a cultural history of being unrapeable legally might do to the idea of sexual freedom. If we’re seen as whores from birth regardless, what do we do to own our sexuality? How do we navigate kink in our minds & with our bodies? How do we find partners & what do we disclose & when? For those of us in kinky relationships, what does it mean to play? Do we attend munches/classes/parties? Are those environments safe for us? And what about things like race play, how do we reconcile ourselves to that if it is or isn’t part of our kink?
What’s that? No honey, the fact that the okimâwastotin (that headdress worn by clueless hipster girls all the time) is generally reserved for males in Plains cultures is not sexist or patriarchal. You can stop trying to ‘save us from sexism’ thanks.
In fact, we were centuries ahead of you in the gender equality department. There are of course a great diversity of socio-political traditions in our various nations, but one thing comes through loud and clear…our women held positions of power. Not merely over hearth and home, but politically as well. In some nations, women run the roost, and this without denigrating or subjugating men (in case you were worried).
Centuries of racist and sexist interference by European powers has taken its toll. We do indeed face sexism in our communities, to an extent unthinkable before Contact. It is sadly the case that the oppressed often internalise their oppressor, and the oppressor for us has always been racist, and sexist.
To combat this, we look to our traditions, which are egalitarian. Where men and women are respected and venerated. We do not fumble towards equality as sameness, as so many settler feminists insist we should (in our context only, as they often recognise this is a ridiculous approach otherwise). We revive equity. We acknowledge different gender roles, and recognise that the female is not subservient in our cultures.
When we discuss ‘women’s power’ and ‘women’s roles’, you hear echoes of your history. But your history is not ours. Our history speaks proudly of the strength of our women and our men. Gender roles were not created in our societies to elevate men and turn women into chattel.
You settler women have much to overcome. Your history is fraught with inequality and abuses. I am sorry that you come from such twisted traditions.
Do not attempt to transplant your historical circumstances into our Nations. You have no idea what the headdress means in our cultures. To claim that the restrictions on who can wear it are ‘sexist’ merely highlights this ignorance…your inability to see outside your own cultural norms, outside your own sad, sexist cultural history.
Colonisers always believe they have the right to define reality, particularly for those they have colonised. What kind of feminist are you, when you take part in these inequalities of power, and proclaim for us the meaning of our own symbols and traditions?
In case you’re not sure, it makes you a racist feminist.
Thank you for that. Good stuff, and it corroborates what I learned when I was studying Wudang from a Lakota martial arts teacher in Long Island (I know, a Chinese guy learning kung fu from a Native teacher sounds funny, but these things happen; he had spent years studying with a distinguished teacher in China, so I wanted to learn from him and I also got some Lakota education as a bonus).
Haudenosaunee women led lives that must have shocked and confused many of their European American contemporaries, who often found themselves trapped in isolated lives of drudgery and servitude. […] Haudenosaunee women enjoyed tremendous stature in their society. They were leaders of their extended clans. They farmed their own fields in communal groups. […] They were guaranteed custody over all their children and owned everything in their homes except for their husband’s weapons, horse, and sacred implements; even when a husband brought home game from the hunt, it became the woman’s possession; she decided how to dispense it and she collected the money from the hide. Haudenosaunee women appointed male chiefs to manage the state, and if a chief did not properly serve his people, women could vote to impeach him and remove him from office. […]
Lucretia Mott, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and Matilda Joslyn Gage — three of the principal architects of 19th century US feminism — all had personal contacts with Haudenosaunee women. Indeed, Lucretia Mott, a key organizer of the historic convention [at Seneca Falls], actually spent time in the Seneca community of Cattaraugus in June of 1848, one month before the convention. There, she saw women leading spiritual ceremonies, and she watched women exercising equal power in political discussion and decision-making as the Seneca nation ratified changes to its governmental structure.
and it’s my personal opinion that “judging somebody by their skin color (or sexuality, gender, etc)” is…shitty, but whatever. WHO CARES. if you look at me and see a breeding animal or a invading cockroach? I don’t really all that much give a shit.
what I *DO* give a shit about is you USING THAT JUDGEMENT TO DENY ME RESOURCES, LIFE, SAFETY, AND/OR HAPPINESS.
so even if every single person of color ever in the entire world thinks JUDGE ALL WHITE PEOPLE BY THEIR SKIN COLOR—until those judging people of color start denying white people voting writes, quality food, clean water, warm houses, jobs to buy all this with, AND they start building coal burning plants in their neighborhoods, shooting their children in the backs, arresting them protesting for educations, etc etc etc etc???? UNTIL THAT TIME HAPPENS—
white folks need to sit down and contemplate “racism” and “white supremacy” in a way that extends beyond quoting dictionaries.
it’s not my favorite word in the world. and i don’t choose to make it a part of my political paradigm. why? because the situation i live in positions me between the poor white, poor mexican and poor black communities. and for MY survival, i need to spend a lot of time working to understand the relationship between poor people and that includes whites. so it’s not useful to MY survival to use the word cracker.
i’m tired of seeing white folks insisting that cracker is being racist. it’s not. and just because using that word it’s not useful to MY survival? doesn’t mean the use of the word cracker doesn’t keep some other person of color alive. that they *need* that word for THEIR survival. it’s called flipping the script. keeping your white supremacist bullshit out of our bodies by naming you for what you are.
it’s not a racist word. people of color who use that word are not racist. WHITE PEOPLE WHO USE THE WORD ARE BEING CLASSIST. “cracker” and white trash, red neck, hill billy, etc, whatever their original origins are, are used *specifically* by upper class whites to justify resource hoarding. THAT is where power plays out in the use of that word. people of color are NOT calling people crackers as a way to keep resources within communities of color. They use it to flip the script—fuck, they even may be using it to be hurtful assholes.
but it’s UPPER CLASS WHITES who use those words *specifically* to designate SOME white people as deserving of resources—and others are just a bunch of low class crackers who (according to them) deserve to go hungry, live in houses with no heating, etc.
so white folks need to shut up about how “cracker” is racist and people of color who use it are being “just as bad” as white folks who use the N word.
My critiques of using a “racism” paradigm rather than a “white supremacy” paradigm not withstanding, you only have to ask WHERE DOES THE POWER PLAY OUT WHEN DIFFERENT COMMUNITIES USE THAT WORD to know that the “reverse racism” white folks are full of shit.
And those middle class/upper class white folks who are rebelling at being called crackers need to especially sit down and think through why that class based term that IS USED BY YOUR FOLK TO DENY PEOPLE RESOURCES is too offensive for you to be labeled with.
Only five days left to support youth media makers in Detroit! THey need to hit $5,000—they’ve already raised $1,485!
I know tumblr can help with this. $5000 IS NOT A THING ON TUMBLR Y’ALL!!!!!
Hey tumblr, check this out! 4k in five days should be easy for the internet.
I’m pushing this fundraiser by youth media makers in Detroit so hard for multiple reasons. Probably the biggest reason is because it is entirely youth led, youth run, youth organized. And those youth are creating media from multiple perspectives. Food justice, environmental justice, digital justice, transportation justice all dominate the perspectives that they’re creating, along with just good old fashioned fun.
And this is important. *Extremely* important. Not just because of the justice perspective—but I need you to ask yourself something. What do you think about when you think about Detroit?
Having done workshops and known a lot of people who’ve done workshops that start off asking this question—and hell, just reading the Detroit tag on tumblr—the majority of responses sound something along the lines of:
burned out houses
and on and on and on. Every once in a while, some people will mention the gardens and a few people will mention music. but 90% of the responses fall into the “dead dying” category.
What does this mean for Detroiters in general and Detroit youth specifically? It means that already marginalized communities (not the hipsters in midtown or corktown, but the generational detroiters in SW or 48217) are further marginalized. Why? because when something is dead or dying—do you give it resources?
or, as current mayor bing has decided—if the only parts of the city that are “viable” (i.e. “alive”) are the places where hipsters and young professionals are settling, do you give “dead” parts of the city resources? or do you redirect all the resources into the “viable” areas are?
this are not questions you’re meant to think through. you’re meant to see what is happening in Detroit. you’re meant to see that because of the ruin porn that gets reblogged endlessly on tumblr, people really DO stop and think through these questions. they assume that any neighborhood that looks like what they see on tumblr *needs* to be shut down. it only makes *sense*. why would you put resources into burned out destroyed dead communities?
or—more specifically, why do you put resources into a *black* city?
these youth—they aren’t focusing on showing that Detroit really is a good place (that’s the realm of the hipsters)—they’re instead working to build a new world. And the media they create *documents* that process. and through their documentation, they’re creating new narratives about Detroit. Detroit is where liberation isn’t just dreamed—it’s where liberation *happens*.
it says something to me that ruin porn of Detroit can get thousands and thousands and thousands of likes on tumblr, but youth that are doing such amazing work need to be contextualized so that people understand exactly how significant their work really is.
but i’m not really even bitter about that. it’s just a part of the work i need to do as an adult ally.
and now you can do it too. support this campaign in anyway you can. reblogs, donations—even just shifting how you understand detroit will help. asking your friend to pause and really think through what he’s saying when he says something like “detroit is such a [insert bad thing].” Do it so that eventually there comes a time when Detroit youth need help with their work and there are no explanations at all needed.
Everybody just helps however they can, no questions asked. because they know to do so means to be creating justice.
Oh, PS—did I mention that any donation will be doubled??? so that teeny donation that you think is so insignificant it’s not worth it—will actually be doubled???
You can’t constantly name-drop Black scholars while mischaracterizing their work to legitimize your ahistorical, fallacious thought-vomit AND continuously claim racist ownership of our language, style, FACES and expect me not to punch you in the fucking face with a brick wall. irnv?L’nv’orihv’/wkl’Ae/jkbbv;jksdbv;/JKS!!!!!!!!
Appropriation. Everything is the “New Black” except for Black People. Solidarity only rolls in one direction with that kind of thinking. Black people are expected to serve even in the fight for freedom.
This is why I say these folks never cared about ending racism, only claiming a position of privilege for themselves.
Block and move on, it’s not worth the bloodpressure. Anyone who can read all of that and still not get the how the kyriarchy works? They’re never going to learn.
does anyone know of any sites/forums where specifically WOC with asperger’s like, idk discuss things? Cause I’m a basically a pro googler and I’ve been searching and haven’t been able to find anything but random individual blog posts/articles. And it’s hard to imagine that on all of the internets there’s no site like that.
Two friends of ours were out last night and were on their way home. On MONTANA and ECHO PARK they were approached by a man (possibly 2?) who is described as a gang member. He began yelling at them and calling them “faggots” and saying really awful homophobic slurs. (Neither are gay, but are straight allies, are vocal for gay rights, and wear rainbow patches and buttons on occasion.)
They were both stabbed and all of their stuff was stolen.
My friend Brian is a bike rider in LA and his bike is BLACK, has a predominate RAINBOW STICKER down the side of a tube, and it has a BIG, FAT SEAT. His back pack is orange and his helmet is grey. (He is sometimes known as BRAINZ LA)
Brian was stabbed in his stomach, right above his belly button. He is alive and discharged, as this luckily didn’t hit anything vital. Our other friend (name withheld) was stabbed in his hip, so hard, it fractured his pelvis. He is still recovering in the hospital.
IF ANYONE SAW THIS HAPPEN, OR SEES THIS BIKE (I’m getting pictures soon), PLEASE CONTACT RAMPART DIVISION AT 213-484-3400.
“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.”—
(On why he let Willow cut all of her hair off)
Read more: Will Smith On Allowing Willow To Cut Her Hair: ‘She Has Got To Have Command Of Her Body’ | Necole Bitchie.com
- He raises a really great point. What would it mean to believe very early that my body was mine. That it’s not for anyone or for any particular purpose other than to be mine until I decide otherwise.
Images from racial theme parties that are posted on social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace not only elicit different reactions from different people based on their race and their attitudes toward diversity, they also represent an indirect way to express racist views about minorities, according to published research by a University of Illinois professor who studies the convergence of race and the Internet.
In a study that examined the associations between responses to racial theme party images on social networking sites and a color-blind racial ideology, Brendesha Tynes, a professor of educational psychology and of African American studies at Illinois, discovered that white students and those who rated highly in color-blind racial attitudes were more likely not to be offended by images from racially themed parties at which attendees dressed and acted as caricatures of racial stereotypes (for example, photos of students dressed in blackface make-up attending a “gangsta party” to celebrate Martin Luther King Jr. Day).
“People who reported higher racial color-blind attitudes were more likely to be white, and more likely to condone or not be bothered by racial-theme party images,” Tynes said. “In fact, some even encouraged the photos by adding comments of their own such as ‘Where’s the Colt 45?’ or ‘Party like a rock star.’ ”
To conduct the study, Tynes showed 217 ethnically diverse college students images from racially themed parties and prompted them to respond as if they were writing on a friend’s Facebook or MySpace page.
“Since so much of campus life is moving online, we tried to mimic the online social network environment as much as we could,” Tynes said. “What we saw were people’s responses almost in real time.”
Fifty-eight percent of African-Americans were unequivocally bothered by the images, compared with only 21 percent of whites. The majority of white respondents (41 percent) were in the bothered-ambivalent group, and 24 percent were in the not bothered-ambivalent group.
In the written response portion of the study, the responses ranged from approval and nonchalance (“OMG!! I can’t believe you guys would think of that!!! Horrible … but kinda funny not gonna lie”) to mild opprobrium and outrage (“This is obscenely offensive”).
The students also were asked questions about their attitudes toward racial privilege, institutional discrimination and racial issues. Those who scored higher on the measure were more likely to hold color-blind racial attitudes, and were more likely to be ambivalent or not bothered by the race party photos.
Respondents low in racial color-blindness were much more vocal in expressing their displeasure and opposition to these images, and would even go so far as to “de-friend” someone over posting those images, Tynes said.
According to Tynes, a color-blind racial attitude is the prevailing racial ideology of the post-Civil Rights era, and is the view that seeing race is inherently wrong.
“If you subscribe to a color-blind racial ideology, you don’t think that race or racism exists, or that it should exist,” Tynes said. “You are more likely to think that people who talk about race and racism are the ones who perpetuate it. You think that racial problems are just isolated incidents and that people need to get over it and move on. You’re also not very likely to support affirmative action, and probably have a lower multi-cultural competence.”
Tynes, who recently was awarded a $1.4 million grant to study the effects of online racial discrimination by the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, said that along with the role children and adolescents play in producing online hate, her inspiration for the study was the numerous racially themed parties that occurred on college campuses across the country in 2007 and the resultant blowback when images from the parties were posted on Facebook and MySpace.
“I wanted to see whether color-blind racial attitudes played a role in condoning images,” she said. “What we found is that the color-blind ideal commonly socialized and valued among whites may actually be detrimental to race relations on college campuses.”
Tynes’ research also revealed an incongruence of reactions among white students that she’s dubbed “Facebook face.”
“To their friends, they would express mild approval of the party photos or just not discuss race,” Tynes said. “But in private, in a reaction that they thought their friends wouldn’t see, some students would let us know that they thought the image was racist or that it angered them. We think that it’s because whites have been socialized not to talk about race.”
While the anonymity of social network sites can contribute to indirect racism, Tynes also says that the very same websites can be used for good, not only by throwing light on what happens at racially themed parties, but also by crowd-sourcing users’ opposition to the parties.
“Just as people use Facebook and MySpace to post photos from the racial theme parties, others use it to criticize and protest against the parties and the images,” she said. “They would use it as a forum for long discussions about the implications of throwing these types of parties, and why they’re fundamentally wrong.”
Since a color-blind racial ideology is associated with endorsement of the racial theme party photos, Tynes says that mandatory courses on issues of racism and multicultural competence are necessary for students from elementary school through college.
Specifically, beginning in elementary school, texts should provide a more comprehensive view of American history and culture, not just focus primarily on whites.
“Simply telling people to celebrate diversity or multiculturalism or saying, generically, that we believe in tolerance isn’t sufficient,” Tynes said. “We need to teach people about structural racism, about the ways that race still shapes people’s life chances and how the media informs our attitudes toward race.”
Tynes and co-author Suzanne L. Markoe of the University of California, Los Angeles, published their research in the March issue of the Journal of Diversity in Higher Education.
Important research is important. Also how many times have I heard comments akin to “horrible…but kinda funny not gonna lie”? Far too many fucking times, that’s how many.
So yeah this happened ( i got this from holzamantweed and deliciouskaek and lost the links SORRY guys) but let me count the ways this girl got failed.
Actually lets just sit with this a sec please.
A 17 year old is up porting a siblings college education and a younger sibling and staying with her employers ( no doubt to FINISH her schooling)
No one disputes this girl is BONE TIRED. No one.
( and save the why is the above happening families work like families . We do how we do , cultures backgrounds circumstances are different this is how she is living.)
And you’re telling me in that entire town that entire bulwark of officials , teachers, employers, has an ounce of decency or creative thinking?
God forgive me but I’m anywhere that has to do with administrative policy in that school.
Her file is ” lost” every damn day.
I have an office she has cot or a couch.
If we talk about “invisibility” ( cause in my head its a fancy way of saying exploitation) lets talk here
Even her coverage has just politely skipped over the fact, that what she is doing
Is So COMPLETELY unsustainable I become NON-VERBAL
but lets talk about a system that allows for her to be tried AUTOMATICALLY
like no mention of counselors or other interventions BEFORE
but Hi HERE’S A JUDGE
or that he
HAD NO IDEA ABOUT HER SITUATION AT ALL WHILE HE WAS SENTENCING HER
that he is predisposed to saying ” it aint gonna kill her “
Lets pause for the cause and realize this is A JUVENILE JUDGE
who looks at this girl and sees her as way to send massages to various ’ EM’s”
She’s already been traumatized by the sentence, your work hard you do well you climb mountains when frankly your peers aren’t even asked to be responsible and if your situation isn’t appropriately middle class enough..
WE STILL HOSE YOU.
This “story” is sad but it’s such a reflection of what happens when we set up justice and laws to be punitive based on stereotypes and NORMS rather than you know humanity.
have likely never felt the flood of relief that there is a WORD FOR WHAT YOU ARE after spending years wondering if you were broken, what was wrong with you, feeling ridiculously isolated and having other people complain about things you can’t change about yourself. If there’s a word for it, that makes it a real thing.
Knowing that I am real, that I am not alone, has done so much more for me than this idea that homogenizing everyone by refusing to recognize our differences is supposed to. I felt invisible and/or mocked for most of my life by people who thought we should all just be “people.” Why in the world would anyone think that could be a good thing for me now?
“Why does everyone need a label, GAWD!?” is code for “I haven’t given myself and who I am much thought, and the fact that you have, and have had to, upsets me. So stop it and be more like me, dammit!”
this to the point of tears
And knowing how other people handle similar issues to yours helps immensely.
All this, especially that last post. People argue that all labels do is divide us, but sometimes division can be really helpful. If I can put people into little groups by different experiences they’ve gone through, it makes it easier to find people who have gone through some of the things I have and talk to them about something they understand on the same level that I do. That keeps me from feeling isolated and does more to integrate me into the people around me and society as a whole than just pretending that the differences between me and other people have absolutely no effect on my life.
Furthermore, when people use the, “why do we need labels? We’re all just people.” argument, they’re creating a false dichotomy that does us no favors. It promotes this idea that we can’t have both division and unity. Yes, we are all people, but we are all different people as well. Acknowledging that fact doesn’t have to mean that we are people of different value or worth. It just means we’re different, and we’re talking about those differences in a clear and organized manner. Just because I label myself doesn’t mean I can’t feel a sense of fellowship, empathy, and love towards people who don’t fit under those labels. And if that’s something others can’t do, ignoring the labels isn’t going to help.
Now, I’m not saying everybody does have to label themselves. There are some people who ARE different, who have felt broken or isolated, and have come to the conclusion that labels are just not for them, and that’s perfectly fine. There are plenty of valid reasons not to want to label yourself. But just because that works for some people doesn’t mean it works for everyone.
listened to this american life and their hour long thing on guatamala massacres.
so fucking intense, i cried half the show and ugly cried the other half. these slaughters are a part of mexican history too. hell, let’s be real, they’re a part of *most* of the histories of latin america.
the disappearing of entire towns.
single survivor adopted by one of the generals in the army who slaughtered the town.
I’ve been seeing an awful lot of tone policing on my dash lately. It seems a lot of people don’t really understand why someone would respond aggressively or angrily, or otherwise emotionally, to having something really fucked up/hurtful/oppressive said to them. Or, they think it’s counterproductive to respond in that way.
First off, the reason that people may respond in a “harsh” manner to oppression: Living in a world that reminds you daily of your lesser worth as a human being can make a person very tired and emotional. When someone says something oppressive — that can be a racist slur, an ableist stereotype, a misogynist dismissal, an invalidation of identity/experiences, being asked invasive and entitled questions, and so on – it feels like being slapped in the face, to the person on the receiving end. The automatic response is emotion and pain. It’s quite exhausting and difficult to restrain the resulting anger. And, frankly, it’s cruel and ridiculous to expect a person to be calm and polite in response to an act of oppression. Marginalized people often do not have the luxury of emotionally distancing themselves from discussions on their rights and experiences.
Second, tone policing is the ultimate derailing tactic. When you tone police, you automatically shift the focus of the conversation away from what you or someone else did that was wrong, and onto the other person and their reaction. Tone policing is a way of not taking responsibility for fucking up, and it dismisses the other person’s position by framing it as being emotional and therefore irrational. The conflation of emotionality with irrationality is often used to silence women and people who are read as women, when they are trying to speak about anything at all. It’s also used against all marginalized people when they attempt to speak about their very personal experiences with oppression. But being emotional does not make one’s points any less valid. It’s also important to note that, by tone policing, you not only refuse to examine your own oppressive behavior, but you also can blame that on the other person, because they were not “nice enough” to be listened to or taken seriously.
Third, the implications: Tone policing assumes that the oppressive act is not an act of aggression, when it very much is. The person who was oppressed by the action, suddenly is no longer a victim, but is “victimizing” the other person by calling them out. Now, I’m not saying it’s okay to be abusive, or oppressive in response to a person who fucks up. But anger is valid. Anger is valid, anger is important, anger brings social change, anger makes people listen, anger is threatening, and anger is passion. Anger is NOT counterproductive; being “nice” is counterproductive. Nobody was ever given rights by politely asking for them. Politeness is nothing but a set of behavioral expectations that is enforced upon marginalized people.
If you see someone who is angry and upset about something that was said or done to them, don’t tell them they should be nicer. Instead: Recognize their emotions as valid. Recognize that their emotional state is an indication that something extremely harmful was done to them, whether it was by you, or someone else. Work to understand why the action was oppressive. Take all that energy that you’re wasting being so concerned with how people are responding to their own oppression, and channel it into fighting oppression.
oh look a thing i wrote
reblogging myself into eternity for the people who JUST. DON’T. GET IT.
this isn’t a 101 anti oppression blog. i don’t do hand holding. funny enough, people who “want to understand” about their privilege manage to find a way, just as i’ve come to understand my own. people who “want to understand” oppressed people’s pain don’t fucking try to police their goddamn emotions. and guess what? this blog is first and foremost my personal blog, and often a place where i come to let off steam from the microaggressions i have to deal with every fucking day. i’m not your teacher or your mommy, i’m sure as fuck not a robot. I DON’T EXIST TO TEACH YOU ABOUT MY OPPRESSION ANDI DO NOT REPRESS MY ANGER FOR YOUR COMFORT.
and i don’t think the haters realize that for every “you’re so mean, you’re so alienating” message they send, i’ve gotten 5 that say how valuable and important and eye opening the shit i’ve written has been. so don’t give me that shit about how you “just want to understaaaaand” as if I’M the one standing in the way of that understanding. that’s bullshit & you know it.
She accused him of raping her, got him sent to prison and took 1.5M from the city and NOW you wanna send a friend request??? You out yo MFN mind?????
A Facebook friend request set the wheels in motion for Brian Banks to be cleared of rape 10 years after he was accused by former high school classmate Wanetta Gibson and had already spent five years in prison.
A Facebook friend request set the wheels in motion for Brian Banks to be cleared of rape 10 years after he was accused by former high school classmate Wanetta Gibson and had already spent five years in prison. Brian Banks was a promising high school football prospect out of Polytechnic High School in Long Beach, Calif., and had a scholarship from the University of Southern California when Gibson, then 15, accused the then-17-year-old banks of raping her.
“We went into an area on campus that is known as a makeout spot, we kissed, we groped we touched, but we never had sex. We ended things on a good note. I went back to class, by the end of the day I was in custody,” Banks, now 26, told KABC in Los Angeles.
Banks faced a maximum sentence of life in prison, and instead of risking the possibility of being behind bars for life, his attorney suggested he plead guilty.
“She told me I was a big black teenager and no jury would believe anything I said,” Banks told KABC.
Banks got out of prison five years later and Gibson received $1.5 million from Long Beach city schools in a civil suit claiming a lack of security was partly responsible for the alleged rape.
Brian Banks was exonerated Thursday and the reason was Gibson sent a Facebook friend request to him.
Banks asked why Gibson would send such a request after accusing him of rape and ruining his life.
Gibson wrote back, “I figured you and I could let bygones be bygones. I was immature then, but I’m much more mature now.”
Gibson pledged to help Banks clear his name, but she was reluctant to reiterate her story to prosecutors because she didn’t want to give back the $1.5 million civil judgment awarded to her.
“‘I will go through with helping you but it’s like at the same time all that money they gave us, I mean gave me, I don’t want to have to pay it back,” Gibson told Banks at one of their meetings, which Banks recorded, according to CBS News.
The new evidence in the case led the California Innocence Project, which defends prisoners they believe were either wrongly convicted or innocent, to take up the case of Brian Banks.
A Los Angeles County Superior Court judge reversed the conviction Thursday against Banks.
“My only dream in the world is just to be free,” Banks said after the ruling, the Los Angeles Times reported
Im sure there are a lot more eloquent things I can say to show my rage here. But instead I’m just gonna say this: I want to fucking kick this rancid wench straight in her vagina.
I have a Black son and this has always been a fear of mine. This is the reason I turned down a scholarship for him to attend a very rich, very white private school when he got to kindergarten. I didn’t want my Black son anywhere near little white girls. This is absolutely terrifying.
words fail me
And he was right. And that’s why he went to jail. That’s why so many of us go to jail.
They’ll never believe us. Not living, not dead, not innocent.
She didn’t want to give back the MONEY.
SHE DIDN’T WANT TO GIVE BACK THE MONEY!
“I’m sorry I fucked up your life and you suffered, but I’m rich now, it’s all in the past, thanks.”
THIS IS THE CONTINUED NARRATIVE IN THIS WHOLE DAMN COUNTRY.
And lets not forget how many woc cant get any kind of justice when they actually *are* raped.
“More and more people are coming out about having chemical sensitivities, or what some folks refer to as chemical injury. There are many of your friends who have asthma, have MCS, have been through chemo, etc, who don’t mention it cause they don’t feel entitled or want to get in a fight, but if you cut down on scents, they will be really happy. A lot of people are chemically injured through doing industrial labor- cleaning houses, using or being exposed to pesticides as farmworkers, and growing up in neighborhoods with a lot of industrial pollution. Chemical sensitivity is a POC issue.”
this is not only a great educational resource on MCS, but has a TON of resources/product recommendations for going fragrence free while being a fierce brown femme (or not brown/not femme)!!!
awesome! yes! everyone please read this and consider using less fragrances when in public or sharing spaces with friends who may have chemical sensitivities! especially if you hang out with me then i will be less likely to puke or have seizures around you thanks.
So that whole ‘The Indian Sherlock’ thing got me brooding over the shitfit some parts of fandom tend to throw at the prospect of a Holmes and/or Watson that aren’t British - and how by ‘British’, they in fact mean ‘a very narrow idea of ~Britishness~ that includes the following attributes: white, English, and coded as upper to upper-middle class’.
And how, if you don’t think that’s true, you should try to imagine fandom’s reaction if the next big Holmes adaptation to come along had Holmes and Watson as British, yeah - young black British men, living case to case on a council estate in a dodgy area of London. How fandom would react if Sherlock Holmes didn’t employ street kids and homeless people like trained animals to do his bidding, but instead was part of that invisible underclass; if instead of having his eccentricities tolerated~ by Scotland Yard on account of being the Great White Genius, Sherlock Holmes, BME, school dropout, and sometime addict, was regarded by the police as practically a criminal already, one more thug, one more junkie, one more dealer in the making. If he had to choose between buying the week’s groceries or palming a twenty to a bored constable for the chance to spend five minutes on a crime scene, in the hope that whoever’s under enough pressure to deal with crime rates in the neighbourhood will pay him enough for a perp to feed himself and Watson for a month or two. If the greatest threat to his safety were police brutality, or the prospect of being done for a snitch; if his arch enemy weren’t Moriarty, but the systemic poverty and inequality that has him helping out his oppressors just to get by, and that makes the other side of the law look more tempting to someone with his skills every day.
And then I realised that I want this adaptation LIKE BURNING, that I have already headcast Holmes and Watson as John Boyega and Leeon Jones, and that from now on whenever I watch Sherlock I will be imagining this instead and crying softly deep within my soul.
that awkward moment I fell in love with sophistry before knowing who sophistry was
I guess I will indulge you and ask number 18: Something I’m really good at, number 20: What I wish for at 11:11 and for a 26: A really random thing that makes you happy. And I’m now going to try and get myself to press the ask button.
3 - probably Godel Escher Bach.
17 - I’ll love you if… …I feel safe and valued and cared for around you and can trust you implicitly; you know how to listen and reconsider and apologize; we make each other laugh with jokes and misc silliness; you have passions; we can squeal to each other excitedly about our interests; we can cuddle and just spend lots of time together and it’s nice
18 - Something I’m really good at - er. Math?
20 - yeah, i don’t; i do have some weird habits about adding up digits
you know, i unfollowed and supported everyone else’s decision because of how he treated dr. gumbs photo and his handling of it and how he treated so-treu and the name under ALL the photos too. but now that someone has exposed he has posted pictures of UNDERAGE BLACK GIRLS AND REFUSED TO REMOVE THEM, I AM 100% REAFFIRMING THAT CHOICE, IF THOSE OTHER THINGS WEREN’T ENOUGH.
we live in a world where 60% of Black girls before the age of 18 will be raped. 60 fucking percent. and this man can’t take down the pictures of under age Black girls he is using to fetishize for his sick purposes. and we got people acting like that’s not a problem? really? really? miss the fuck outta me with that. you see my icon, i am making that face at you so hard right now. it’s sickening.
they are a blog that claims to be for women and female friendly, trying to support women writers. on some riot girl bullshit. and they are about to post a racist as fuck image in their zine. http://strugglingtobeheard.tumblr.com/post/23772584508/blck-grrl-navigatethestream-blck-grrl#notes this is the image. it was drawn by a white woman who draws racist imagery of Black men on her blog as well. she is going to get exposure and recognition for drawing the word slut on a woman who likely hasn’t eve reclaimed the title. she is also likely racist, judging by her blog content. furthermore, it is clear this zine hasn’t paid attention to the numerous voices of women of color who stood AGAINST slut walk, something they seem to be cool with.
please signal boost.
sent an ask telling them why they were wrong. it’s exceedingly fucked up.
According to admissions statistics, Asian applicants are the beneficiaries of the nuances in the application process. About 21 percent of all Asian applicants are admitted, compared to 10 percent of white applicants (the fact that these numbers are so much higher than that of Hispanics and African-Americans can be explained by the opportunity gap referenced above). Jefferson used to have a majority of white students, but the rise in Asian population has erased that. Asians are now the majority. With a new majority, inevitably, comes a new culture. It is no secret that the Asian culture lends itself to increased focus on academics, an emphasis on scholastic excellence, and pressure to get into the best possible college. That pressure leads students on the proverbial “race to nowhere.”
With a new majority, inevitably, comes a new culture. It is no secret that the Asian culture lends itself to increased focus on academics, an emphasis on scholastic excellence, and pressure to get into the best possible college. That pressure leads students on the proverbial “race to nowhere.”
It is no secret that the Asian culture lends itself to increased focus on academics, an emphasis on scholastic excellence, and pressure to get into the best possible college.
1: Picture of yourself 2: A description of my self-esteem 3: My favorite book 4: Biggest Turn Offs 5: Biggest Turn Ons 6: Most famous person you’ve met 7: What I want to be when I’m older 8: My relationship(s) with my sibling(s) 9: Relationship status? 10: What I did yesterday 11: What I’m doing today 12: What I’m doing tomorrow 13: Most embarrassing moment 14: Description of who I like 15: Biggest insecurities? 16: Something I wish I could change about myself 17: I’ll love you if… 18: Something I’m really good at 19: Something I’m really bad at 20: What I wish for at 11:11 21: A reason I’ve lied to a friend 22: Favorite Movie 23: Something that has made you mad recently 24: A random fact about yourself 25: Question of your choice
Oh! If you do this, include the text with the number!!!!!
yeah, so technically, this is a RAPE RAPE RAPE RAPITY RAPE trial. not a “sex” trail.
also, huffington post is a piece of shit for showcasing all the pictures of this woman in her cheerleading outfits (i.e. highly sexual, high levels of nakedness, etc)—and oh, yeah, all the assholes who are taking the bait and being all, “i wish i had been “victimized” by this woman hurr hurr,” need to eat burning embers.
also, the thing i’ve noticed about cases like this—it’s not 100% always this way, but a VAST portion of the cases like this are of white women raping boys of color. and they always try to get out of charges by saying their “in love” and they didn’t know what to do and they’re so sorry, but they luuuuurv this 14 year old boy. that one case that happened years ago, mary kay laterno or something like that? was with a boy of color, there’s been more than one case of white women with mexican boys who were undocumented and got deported when parents tried to report the women, there was one case that came out shortly after the first mexican boy was raped of a black boy who was raped by his teacher…
clearly i don’t have documentation of every single case ever—but there’s enough of a pattern that i notice it. and am willing to say that there’s some serious fucked up racial/gender SHIT going on here, with white women preying on boys of color—where i don’t doubt that it’s linked to the vulnerability boys of color are situated in (possible deportation, nobody believing them because boys of color are lying liars who probably deserve to be shot in the back, etc etc)—but also i think that there’s some sort of unconcious (or maybe totally completely concious) fetish fantasy thing going on where these women are scared to be with *men* of color—but still have their mistress/slave fantasies….
all i can say is that ANYbody *sniffs* at my son, and i will be ripping highlighted hair out of skulls.
(and ps. this makes me just sick, because i know a group of teens that are working against bullying and violence in schools, and the stories that htey have to tell about teachers hitting on them make my teeth hurt. all these grown ass men saying they wish they were victimized are looking at this through the eyes of their adult selves rather than the eyes of even a 17 year old kid who has pimples, is worried about getting kicked out of the house if their grades drop much lower, has untreated depression, has a crush on a fellow 17 year old, and has absolutely NO power to say no to an adult without facing reprecussions.and this doesn’t even get into actually being gay and having a female teacher saying if you don’t do what I say, i’ll fail you.
eat flaming embers and may your blisters get infected.
“People of color, women, and gays — who now have greater access to the centers of influence than ever before — are under pressure to be well-behaved when talking about their struggles. There is an expectation that we can talk about sins but no one must be identified as a sinner: newspapers love to describe words or deeds as “racially charged” even in those cases when it would be more honest to say “racist”; we agree that there is rampant misogyny, but misogynists are nowhere to be found; homophobia is a problem but no one is homophobic. One cumulative effect of this policed language is that when someone dares to point out something as obvious as white privilege, it is seen as unduly provocative. Marginalized voices in America have fewer and fewer avenues to speak plainly about what they suffer; the effect of this enforced civility is that those voices are falsified or blocked entirely from the discourse.”—Excerpt from Teju Cole’s essay “The White Savior Industrial Complex”. (via jalwhite)
“Four hundred and eighty-eight voters, all but four lifelong Democrats, and nearly all Black, had their voting history erased by Shelby County (Memphis) election workers, setting them up for purge from the voter list. These selective alterations appear to target the race of US Congressman Steve Cohen (D-TN-09).”—
Bev Harris details yet another example of GOP election fraud, after the new tightened election restrictions have been passed. This is what they were intended to do all along, incidentally. (via jonathan-cunningham)
i need somebody to connect this shit to the murder of trayvon and the protection of george zimmerman and the imprisonment of marissa alexander—-i am working all day so i just don’t have the time—but y’all, this shit is ALL interconnected. in historical ways that are connected to slavery and jim crow. and they are terrified of us *seeing* that theyre all interconnected. because then our responses will be more than a change.org petition.
Oppressed Heathens™ think, naturally, that they’re being oppressed or marginalized and such.
White supremacists not only think that they’re being oppressed or marginalized, they think they’re being targeted by people of color (who are of course just calling them out on their ignorant white shit), and they even to organize themselves and act on this belief. It is no mere coincidence that white supremacist organizations have a strong tendency to appropriate and misuse the heathen motifs of their own heritage for their wicked purposes.
So yeah, Oppressed Heathens™ are only a few steps away from being legit white supremacists, if they aren’t there already.
See this, all you folks who think Marvel comics are appropriation and oppression on the same scale as what’s been done to indigenous peoples? And then dismiss those who call you out on it as “cunts” and “idiots”?
THIS IS WHY YOU ARE A PROBLEM.
You are causing more actual damage to outsiders’ views of Heathenry than Marvel ever possibly could.Have you not seen how this whining and refusal to use your brains has caused people to think of Heathens just on Tumblr over the past few days? Heathenry has enough trouble distancing itself from Naziism and white supremacy without you throwing uninformed hissy fits when your privilege is rightfully pointed out to you!
So stop throwing benches around the mead hall because of your feelings, sit down, STFU, and listen. And then stay quiet and absorb and process. Then do serious research before you speak on the topic again.
I’m officially adding Oppressed Heathens™ to my personal “GTFO my hall” list.