One time, years ago, I was on a date with some girl person and she reached over to kiss me but I misread signals and shook her hand instead. we both stared at each other awkwardly. I laughed but she got all huffy. then we had sex. the end.
I’m really bad at reading social cues. As in usually I don’t at all because it’s impossible. A month or two ago a woman invited me to a party, we went out to the club, came back, I asked to crash at her place, she agreed, the only available spot was her bed, and whoop doop da doop she got naked.
And I didn’t have sex with her because I was shocked to all kinds of hell what had just happened. And everything was awkward forever and ever.
This is why the person expecting physical contact should use their words. Somebody pulled stuff like that on me, my only reaction would have been “Excuse me, but what exactly do you want to happen?” and then having to find a tactful way to explain a lack of interest in physical contact.
^^ thissss. it’s hard to do (im assuming especially so as queer people?) but it saves everyoe from a lot of discomfort. Knowing my amazing lack of flirtation skills, I would probably have said “Soooo there’s no space in my place except for my double bed OHOHOHO I mean that’s unfortunate, you don’t have to stay there though, Im so sorry okay please get out now, here’s some money for taxi far okay im going ow goodnite wait come to bed, or not”
omfg i am so glad it’s not just me stuff like this happens to
i *can* flirt and pick up on signals but i can also be hilariously ignorant of them or doubt they’re real and therefore ignore them because bpd
for the most part i need someone to be like
before i believe they’re interested