Next time I hear yet another remark about an Artist of Color’s ego (notably, they are almost always Black), I’m gonna make posters with these statements from Adele about how she wants to “buy a gun and open fire” because she has to pay so much in taxes:
I’m mortified to have to pay 50%! [While] I use the NHS, I can’t use public transport any more. Trains are always late, most state schools are shit, and I’ve gotta give you, like, four million quid – are you having a laugh? When I got my tax bill in from [the album] 19, I was ready to go and buy a gun and randomly open fire.
How quickly we forget about this but oh, Kanye releases a new album? OMG HIS EGO! Jay Z has some new deal or other? THAT EGO! Beyonce uses a gimmicky monicker for her tour, like Queen? THAT WOMAN’S EGO IS OUT OF CONTROL! Rihanna does some marketing stunt involving a plane and music journalists? BRING HER DOWN A NOTCH! HER EGO IS OFFENSIVE!
Adele exploits her image as “every White woman” while wishing she could open fire because her exceptional wealth is taxed accordingly? well, doesn’t she look lovely in lace? If it had been Rihanna making this statement two years ago, we would have never heard the end of it.
Last week it was Kanye’s ego with the new album, today it’s Jay Z’ deal announced last night. Like clockwork, the media machine is back in the business of putting them all in their places…
(◕‿◕✿) facts about divorce for feminists and MRAs:
- in most (51%) of cases, both parents decided on their own (out of court) that the mother was to receive full custody
- in 29% of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement
- in 91% of cases, the decision for the mother to have custody was made without court involvement
- of those who go to court, 70% of men who seek custody of their child receive it
- of those 70%, 1/3 of the cases cited domestic abuse as part of the reason for divorce
- women who mention having been victims of domestic abuse in court are less likely to receive custody of their children than women who didn’t
i’m tired of seeing posts on feminism by both feminists and MRAs citing “gender bias in custody cases” as a problem we need to solve. women aren’t unfairly receiving custody more often. abusive men are unfairly receiving custody.
the fact is, if my dad had actually attended his court ordered anger management type classes, i would legally have been required to spend a portion of my time with him until i turned 18, even though he beat my mother and abused me.
don’t let anyone make you think that the scale isn’t still tipped toward men in a court of law.
With Father’s day fast approaching, I would like to send a shout out to the people typically ignored on days like this:
- To the people with abusive fathers
- To the people absentee fathers
- To the people who don’t know their fathers
- To the people who cut their fathers out of their lives
- To the people with conflicting feelings about father’s day because their own father was a piece of shit but other men they know and love are awesome dads
- To the people who learned how not to be a shitty dad by not doing what their father did
- To the people whose fathers are deceased
- To the people whose fathers are locked up or deployed and/or can’t come home
- To the people trying to mend broken relationships with their fathers
You are not alone. If you don’t want to celebrate father’s day or you don’t want to talk to your father, that’s perfectly fine. Do whatever it takes to make sure you are healthy and happy.
cheers to us!
It’s real funny [except not funny at all] how the way to devalue, dehumanize and gaslight women is to say they have Daddy Issues
Daddy Issues became a well known thing because men have become known for abusing and leaving their children
And yet, somehow that’s a reflection on the daughter and not men
But Feminists make up sexism right?
Slave gravesite in New York City
“SOMETHING YOUR TOUR GUIDE MIGHT NOT TELL YOU:
The heart of NYC’s Financial District is built on a huge 18th century African Burial Ground. Some 419 Africans were discovered in 1991, a large portion women and children.
The burial ground extends from Broadway Southward under City Hall, and almost to the site of the former World Trade Center. It is believed that there are as many as 20,000 slavery-era Africans in graves under the buildings in Lower Manhattan.
Abolish historical amnesia and ponder for a moment the fact that this financial epicenter of the world is built on slavery, oppression, and death.”
Literally, and daily.
Who wants to bet that 95 per cent of the fedoras defending Creepshots are also furious at the US government for their “invasion of privacy?”
I’d wager 100%.
PLEASE DON’T IGNORE THESE
JUST BECAUSE UR FRIEND’S PARENTS SEEM NICE WHEN YOU MEET THEM DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE NICE PEOPLE B/C YOU DO NOT SEE WHAT HAPPENS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS!!!!!!!!!
SO IF FRIEND TELLS YOU THAT PARENTS ARE BEING CRUEL TO THEM AND HURTING THEM, DO NOT SAY “But they seem so nice! I doubt they mean it!” BECAUSE THAT IS AWFUL TO SAY TO THEM AND MAKES THEM NOT WANT TO TALK TO YOU EVER AGAIN
Ugh this. There’s a reason I don’t talk about half the shit my father did to me growing up.
I am tired of wannabe linguists and bubblegum hipsters telling me that Gypsy is “such a beautiful word, it would be such a shame if we can’t use it”…
How hard is it to understand that it’s a slur? I don’t understand the constant queries of “but, why?”
Gypsy is a racial and ethnic slur because it has, historically and contemporarily, been used to murder, enslave, rape, marginalize, and discriminate against Roma (and other - see below) people.
There is much about the history of the Roma on my blog. This animated video from the Open Society Foundations covers some of our history [CLICK].
Linguistically, the word is an exonym - a name given to us by outsiders with no regard for our own preferences. It is a word that, at is very root is inaccurate (simply… wrong). It stems from the belief that we came from Egypt - because of our darker skin and different language (Indo-Aryan, unlike the Celtic, Germanic or Romance languages Europeans were familiar with). It later came to apply to anyone that white Europeans thought had a similar lifestyle to us - Kale/Kaale, Romany, Romanichal, Irish (Pavee) & Scottish Travellers, Jenische, Manouche, Sinte, and many others, some of whom are racially white (and these groups did not suffer the same during the Holocaust or in since).
The word itself is hideous.
A disgusting misnomer that has been stapled to our foreheads for generations. It has been burned into our skin before we were hung. It was tattooed on our arms before we were gassed. It has been whispered in the ears of mothers as they were forcibly sterilized. It has been screamed at fathers as their houses were set alight. It has been used to deny education, employment, healthcare, and housing. It has been used to pass laws banning our free movement, banning the owning of wagons, banning the selling of horses or other traditional trades, banning our languages. It has been used to send us to prison, to remove us from stores, restaurants, schools, libraries, buses - all because of our ethnicity.
Don’t tell me it’s a “nice” word. It’s not.
I suppose, if a word has never been spat at you in hatred, you have a different view of it. If you are outside of the group to which it applies you have the privilege to use descriptors such as “nice” or “beautiful”. When you haven’t heard the stories of your relatives that were murdered because of it. When you haven’t seen the tears in your own mother’s eyes, because of it.
I am so tired of these questions.
As my grandfather used to say, “O čhavoro na bijandola dandencar” - A child is not born with teeth.
In other words, we learn to be disrespectful, mean, hateful, racist. It shouldn’t be up to me to continually explain why a slur is a slur.
It’s a slur. Period.
It doesn’t matter if the word emits rainbows and sparkledust every time it is written or spoken…
it’s a slur.